Crocodile tears usually bring the pedophile accusations of being "manipulative". It's kind of a no win situation.

Only in psychiatric evaluations. When a psychiatrist meets someone to officially evaluate and write such evaluation, for some reason they only find what they want to find (they only see what they want to see).

They aim the questions in such a way as to write what they instinctively think you are. When the person answers vaguely or not in a way that was expected, they skip to the next question rather than objectively investigating who that person really is.

It underlines their very human needs to stereotype. That's why i said i didn't think you saw what was going on behind the curtain - in the end they aren't better people because they spent 7 years in a university studying psychology or psychiatry and proudly put their "Ph.D" title everywhere they can. It's something that really desillusioned/disappointed/saddened me in life.

Their stereotypes are, in part, supported with statistics. For example, psychiatrists say that women who rape people with their husbands are often battered women syndrome. When a woman who willingly participated in the rapes and enjoyed it too gets an evaluation, she invariably ends up a "battered woman" in the evaluation because that is what the psychiatrist wanted to see.

When a pedophile cries in such an evaluation, sometimes - like you mention - there's no way out of the stereotype. If he doesn't cry, then he's a sick non-empathetic pedo, and he if cries, then he's a sick manipulative pedo.

But, in group therapy, things are different. They want to see patients cry and are satisfied with it, even if it's faked. It's now another field - behavior modification - rather than stereotyping.

You will think me fascetious, but I am still recovering from the Stockholm Syndrome over it all (i.e. identification with your captors).

Oh, someone that sees it and admits it. Like Garrek would say in DS9, "How perceptive of you" :)

That syndrome is more frequent than people think, in smaller things in life. For example, sometimes an airplane pilot almost crashes the plane through is incredible incompetence and, miraculously, manages to not crash at the last second. You then see the passengers, in the media, thanking the "great pilot hero that saved their lives" when in fact he almost killed them.

I had five years of intense, invasive "treatment" including frequent polygraphs. The time commitment to therapy over those five years ranged from twenty to forty hours a week.

That's a lot. External group therapy, in my case, was 3 hours per week.