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there's an ideal i try to live up to, where putting a little girlfriend's happiness before my own is the MOST important thing. in practice, i think of myself as providing a safe place, like a sandbox, for a little girl to act out her romantic fantasies. i see my role as protecting her from the realities that you describe, of jealousy and disappointment and exploitation and everything else. I totally agree. I know that she's safe if she's interested in me. I'm not about to put her in jeopardy in any shape or form. Can't say that I trust a 14 yr old with her heart as much as I trust myself. Who can love her like I do? Who can deal with her like I do? Who can be this patient? Certainly not anyone her own age. Even if they were more mature than most 13 yr olds, they could never be at my level, in my mind she's safer with me (who's twice her age). BH |