Some Comments

Hi Lucky that was a very well written and well intentioned post but I have to take issue with a few things that you have said here.

QUOTE: "I am a firm believer in the theory that Girl Lovers need to be around girls. We need girls in our life to be happy and complete, it's just that simple. Of course we cannot be anything other than friends with these girls, but we should not be keeping ourselves away from them."

I don't think GLers NEED to be around Girls, we all have our own way of dealing with our situation and for some of us a more arms-length approach is best. If some of us feel that developing and maintaining purely platonic relationship with a girl we may desire as a romantic/sexual companion is a good way of dealing with the situation...great...but this should not necessarily be pushed or recommended to everyone, some of us are not as well suited to this type of approach. I believe that the best thing for the GLer community to do is to encourage individual GLers to use their own intelligence and reasoning to find thier own way of dealing with thier situation...while staying on the right side of the law of course.

I for one will admit to being very uncomfortable with pursuing a platonic relationship with a Adolescent Girl that I have developed strong feelings for and would very much rather have her as a companion. I have been in situations where I had to interact with AGs (including on personal levels) that I had strong interests in (but could not act on them) and those experiences were lousy and not ones that I look forward to repeating. Maybe I am just wierd or born in the wrong time period but to me Girlfriends and Platonic Female Friends tend to be completely separate things...what I would want in one is usually very different than the other and one is in no way a substitute for the other.

Also NEEDING a girl is NEVER HEALTHY, first of all if you link your ability to be happy and complete to having a Girl in your life you will be unintentionally placing a huge burden on her; secondly neediness is a quality in Men/Boys that Women/Girls find very repulsive, become needy towards Girls or Women and you will have a harder time getting what you "need".

QUOTE: "Most non-GL's cannot relate to our position. They think that if we are tempted by a little girl, we will give into that temptation. They think this way because it's what they would do with something they find tempting"

Many people who oppose not only relations between Adults and Minors (AG or LG) but who also support the patholization of attraction to minors will say something liek this: "If you are attracted to something then you WILL act on it there is no way that you are not going to act on it" if that were true that would mean that all men will rape because all men (including teliophiles) will be attracted to something that they cannot have, after all even if you are a teliophile that does not mean that the woman you like is going to like you too. This is something you should point out the next time you here someone suggesting that MAA's are obliged to act out on thier attraction.

QUOTE: "We alone are in the unique position that physical expression of our sexual love is illegal. No other orientation suffers from this problem. The rest of society is free to engage in romantic relationships with the ones they desire. Except for us. We must sacrifice our desires to protect our loved ones from societies wrath."

You are correct about the issue of legality, at least in the Western World. Culturally it is another story, members of many religions such as Judaism, Islam , Sikhism and certain types of Christianity (in thier minds anyway) face supernatural sanctions against pairing off with people outside of their religion and in their minds this can be understandably more frightening than a jail sentence. They may also face the possibility of their parents disowning them.

The last sentence in the above quote was superbly put, acting on our desires in this social situation would be completely immoral, even if you have no dependents who would suffer during your jail time think of the harm this would cause to your girlfriend who would be forced to attend counselling designed to convince her that she was abused and who would be forced to see the man she loves hauled off to jail. Due to these concerns breaking the law would be just plain selfish.