Re: Another chapter in the neverending soap opera

Hi, Shadowdweller...I try to keep up with your posts on this subject to give you whatever advice and support I can on your situation with Emma. Here is something that really caught my attention about this particular post of yours...the idea that you "stole" her childhood.

Shadow, we have to let girls define their childhood themselves, and stop defining it like society insists that we do. In a world where dating a girl was legal, is there anything to prevent a girl from continuing to play, laugh, and be wild with her friends at the same time as she dresses or acts more "mature" to try and please an adult that she fancies? In a youth liberated world, MAA's would love girls in our respective AoA EXACTLY as they are, without expecting them to act more "mature" (a very subjective word) or looking like they are older. Personally, I love 12 year old girls looking exactly like 12 year old girls, and I would never like one better if she wore a padded bra or a lot of make-up. Emma seems to really like you, but she is unaware that you are a GLer and that you like her exactly as she is. If GLer's were allowed to love girls precisely as they are, these girls wouldn't feel the need to "abandon" their childhood. We love them exactly as they are. Perhaps a man who wasn't an MAA would expect a 12 year old girl to look and act older in order to turn him on...but this isn't the case with us GLer's.

Hence, it's utterly nonsense that you were "stealing" or ruining her childhood, because you love her precisely as she is. Don't blame GL for stealing any girl's childhood...girls should have the right to be children or to abandon their societal definition of childhood at will. Since you saw her at a party among other kids, she was acting "young." When she is alone with you, this provides her with the opportunity to act "grown up." In a youth liberated society, a 12 year old girl would have a foot in BOTH worlds, and many of them would enjoy being in both worlds at different times. Hell, in the chat room I often act very immature, just like the kid that I actually am on the inside, because I'm just hanging with my friends. But in RL, at a job interview, I'm Mr. Mature, because different situations call for different things. I hate being stuck in the adult world constantly, however; I really wish I could spend more time in a kid's world, just playing and having fun. Well, guess what? Have you ever considered that perhaps Emma doesn't WANT to spend 24/7 in a child's world, and that she enjoyed the opportunity you gave her to be a part of the adult world for a while? So don't worry that you stole her childhood...you may have given her the type of opportunity that she dreamed of. You need to consider that Emma (and other girls) may be happy to leave their childhood behind at times...just as adults sometimes wish they could leave the adult world behind at times.

Do you know why so many adults miss their childhood and why so many kids dream of being part of the adult world? Because we are ALL expected to be part of just ONE world based upon our chronological age. In a less adultist world, we would all have the opportunity to play in both worlds.

As for coming out to your daughter...if you feel she was ready, and that you needed to tell her the truth, I trust your judgment. Due to social conditioning, she would of course think that you had flipped your lid in order to be attracted to a 12 year old girl. By talking to her and letting her know that you do not have a conventional orientation, this provides her with an opportunity to de-program herself from that societal conditioning. If she really loves you (and I'm sure she does), she will possibly have a newfound respect for our orientation as a result of having a dad who is an MAA.

Keep us updated.