Hello Dissident.

Thank you for such a well written and in-depth reply to me.

Your post made me sad for you Dissident. It must be so difficult and lonely to live the kind of "out" life you do. I can only imagine the frustration you feel for not being able to have the kind of relationships with teen girls that you dream of. This post of yours really touched me.

In real life, I have no teen girls in my life and I am just fine. I don't know if I would use the words "happy" or "complete,"

We both know in our heart of hearts that you would be crazy happy if you had a special teen love in your life. I know you can't, but I believe it would make your life more "complete", as it were. I don't think you would deny that. Your passionate love of teen girls is so clear (a love I also share).

Though I have total faith in my self-control, the problem is, many in the general public are conditioned by the media to believe that MAA's lack self-control

A very sad reality. I can relate to this. Of course I have had some bad situations with others because of my close friendships to younger girls, but for the most part I've been really Lucky to have most people accept it. But, a large part of that is because I am very personable and make friends quite easily (with adults and children). If I was a more quiet and shy individual, I would not be able to have the kind of friendships that I have. I am also very well respected in my community because of my career, and that career also involves young people.

Also, there is another consideration. Some people DO NOT like to have to constantly bottle up their true feelings. If I was actively making platonic friends with teen girls, there is a good chance I will be attracted to one or more of them. And I would always have to suppress my feelings and act like a "big brother" or as just a friend. That is upsetting to me.

Dissident, you do not know how true this really is. You are totally, 100% correct about this, and it has happened to me on numerous occasions. I have had young friends that I found myself very attracted to. I was fortunate enough that most of them did not seem to feel the same way. They liked me and enjoyed being my friend, but they did not want a romantic relationship with me. That made it much easier to deal with, and simply be their friend. Of course I wished for more, but I had to put their needs and feelings first.

However, there were several girls that I was attracted to that did feel the same way about me. In all instances, they were teenagers. Girls that age can be very difficult to handle (as I am sure you know), especially when they are interested in you. Fortunately for me, again, these girls were old enough to know that it was "forbidden" and taboo for me to be with them. Yes, I have had some close calls over the years, but I am proud to say that I have never done anything illegal with a young girl.

Point of all this, is that I can totally understand and relate to what you're saying here friend. The reality of our attractions does make it difficult to be "just" friends with a girl we find attractive. It can be done, but it is certainly not easy, and it's not for everyone. That was an excellent point you raised, and I am glad you mentioned it.

I have had some people in this community call me a coward for not having teen girls as platonic friends, and I have even been told that I'm actually being cruel to several unnamed AG's by so depriving them of my friendship.

I don't think it's cowardice. You're making what I would consider to be a very brave and noble choice. You're sacrificing your happiness and desires for the greater good. I can't see how that can be called cowardly.

It's clear to me that I probably went a little overboard in how I worded my post. I still believe, in theory, that all Girl Lovers should have girls in their lives. But, clearly this is not possible, nor does it work for everyone. I can only really speak for myself, and I suppose I am guilty of projecting my thoughts about Girl Love unto the rest of us. I apologize for that.

I am sorry if this was rather lengthy. I wanted to make a reply that did justice to the one you made to me. I appreciate that you took the time to write those words to me. I feel for you friend, your chosen life path is not an easy one, but I applaud your courage for taking it.

Laterz.