Re: What is really going on?

Hi and welcome to Girl Chat. I am fairly new here, so I would not presume to speak for the forum or any of it's members. I can only really speak for myself and perhaps give you some insights you may not have known.

So the SGL get shut down by the NSGL when they post about their desire for sexual relationships.

I'd like to point out that I don't think there is such a thing as a "non sexual girl lover". We would not even be Girl Lovers if there were not a sexual component for our feelings for little girls.

Speaking for me, I have sexual desires and fantasies involving young girls, but I have never acted on those desires, nor will I ever. However, my sexual desires for young girls is not what makes me a GL. I have an emotional and spiritual love for young girls, and those are far more important to me than my physical desires. I consider my sexual desires to be a distant third in my GL life, but I would be a liar if I said I wasn't sexually attracted to young girls.

I am sure it is not this way with everyone. I am sure some people feel just the opposite, that their sexual desires are stronger than their emotional attraction to girls. I would not presume to speak for those people, I cannot.

I don't know the legal ramifications of keeping this site open, and if that's why this happens, or if it's something else.

It impresses me that GC is kept running. I do not know how the powers that be keep it online. World Governments often do not care about free speech, especially when it involves something unpopular. I do not think anything illegal is said or done at GC, but I would like to hear from the moderators about how GC has been kept operational for so long. We are Lucky that such a site exists.

Could I please get a brief description of why this happens, and how "far" is too far with a little girl?

I think any sexual contact with a little girl would be too far, in the world we are currently living in. I do not know who would disagree with me, but this is my personal belief and stance. We simply cannot do anything sexual with a girl because the risks to her from the aftermath are too great.

So all you guys know and it's out there, it's way too ingrained in me that pedophiles and bad news for kiddies

I think it depends on the type of pedophile (I do prefer GL). If someone's primary attraction to children is physical and their emotional attraction is a distant second, then perhaps that person would not put the needs of the child ahead of his sexual desires.

I can tell you that for those of us whose primary attraction to children is emotional, rather than sexual, we would always put the interests of the child ahead of our own. I cannot imagine doing anything with a child that would risk harming her in any way. It's just completely against my nature. I think children can benefit greatly by having a caring, loving GL in their life. I am a supporter of GL's having girls in their life.

I should also say that GL's who simply want to get close to a girl in order to have sexual contact with her, should not be around girls. Perhaps those are the kind of pedophile you think are "bad news", and I would have to agree with you there. Anyone who wants to be around children only for sexual contact should be kept away from them (if I may be so bold).

so even if I got all the "right" answers, I still wouldn't let my child have a sexual relationship with an adult.

I would not want my child to do so either. I'd like to point out that if your child did want to have a sexual relationship with an adult, and they knew your feelings on the subject, they'd likely do it anyway behind your back.

I imagine your parents did not want you to have sex with an adult when you were 11 years old, but you went and did it anyway. I imagine they knew nothing about it at all. You of all people should know and understand how resourceful children can be when they really want something. Personally, I disagree with the choice you made at that age, but I respect your right to choose.

So there's no right or wrong answers here, I'm just gathering information, hopefully in a non-judgemental and polite way.

I am glad that you have come here looking for answers. It sounds like you have some issues to work through as well. Sexual abuse of children is never a good thing. I saw another post of yours that I would like to reply to, so I will finish this for now.

I hope you find all you need here on GC.

Laterz.