Thank you for this post.

I had sex at 11. My boyfriend was 23. It was consensual.

I think it is an enormous asset to have someone with your unique perspective here at GC. I would like to say that I respect the choice you made to have sex at 11, but I do not agree with it. I also think your boyfriend was rather irresponsible for allowing you to go through with it. But that was his choice as well. I do not wish to judge either of you, but I would not have made the same choice he did.

However, to this day I wish I had waited and I don't think I would have engaged in sexual relations at all with anybody at that age if he had not been so much older than me and I wanted to please him. I figured he knew what was best, and deferred to his judgement on the matter.

This was so profound. I can see how easy it would be for a GL to think that a girl was doing something because she wanted to do it, but in reality she only wanted to please him and make him happy. How would we ever know for sure? I do not think we could know until the girl got older. This is one of the dangers of having sex with a young girl, even if she seems willing to do it.

Most young girls will go along with something if they are in love, and to make the other person happy. In fact, children do this all the time. Children often have a strong desire to make others happy. Some children even feel they have to do things for others in order to receive love and attention in return. Parents sometimes reinforce this line of thinking as well, and it can be hard for children to grow out of.

That's not to say I had no desire or choice, though it ended up being a real let-down.

I am at least glad that it was your choice and that you were not forced or pressured into anything you did not want. I am sorry it was a let-down for you.

I do wish I had had more time to "be a kid", but I ended up growing up real fast after that.

What was it about having sex at 11 years old that made you "grow up" faster? Do you think that it somehow corrupted you? Or do you feel it made you more mature and responsible and you were not ready for that?

He broke it off with me eventually, and I was VERY promiscuous from that time until I was 20. I think it came directly from that relationship.

Perhaps you just liked sex? Perhaps you were looking for love and affection, but thought you could only obtain it through sex? I think only you can answer such questions, but those answers will involve much deep soul searching. I hope you will discuss some of these issues here at GC too.

Or it may have come from the several times I had "interactions" with friends of the family between the ages of 3 and 8.

If it is ok to ask, can you be more specific? Are you saying that you had sex with members of your family when you were between 3 and 8 years old? Were those activities abusive and against your will? Do you not think this had anything to do with your choices at 11 years old and after? I would imagine those early "interactions" played a large role in your future behaviors.

I hope you do not mind discussing this in more detail, because I think your thoughts and insights as a sexually active child will be very valuable on this forum. I think you can clear up alot of misconceptions some of us may have about the sexuality of young girls, and answer questions we could not ask anyone else.

Thankfully, at 26, I have settled into life now, but it did take me a long time to get here. So that's my story about being a LG.

I am gratified to hear that life has settled down for you now. I am glad you're here and look forward to reading more of your thoughts and insights into childhood sexuality. As a male, I am always interested in hearing the female side of things. Thank you again for being here, and thank you very much for sharing such intimate details of your life.

Laterz.