It's not that simple

You made it black and white with "do you want to spend with her as long as it takes you to get laid, or 24/7"

It isn't that simple. People need space and sometimes want to be alone. That doesn't mean you don't love someone. Furthermore, wanting sex doesn't mean you can't love'm too.

It comes down to the stereotype of the jerk leaving women after they fuck them instead of spending the night, like on Seinfeld and stuff. The thing is, sometimes guys do that for a good reason rather than detesting the woman, but no one asks why. Like maybe it's a cop or something.

But basically, it's like 'do you want to cuddle for cuddlings sake or to get some 'tang'?

I like cuddling for cuddling's sake and I think if I had to choose between being only able to hug a girl or fuck her I'd choose the hug. Is that what you mean?