Re: yeah

As I have said before, I have no problem with anyone from this community who finds ways to spend time with girls in their AoA and stay within legal bounds. I am simply against those who expect EVERYONE in this community to do so, and who reject us or call us a "coward" if we do not want to take the risk of forming such relationships, especially if we happen to be "out" in real life. You may say that LG's aren't overly concerned about sex, but AG's are quite sexual, and people immediately raise an eye every time an adult man tries to make seemingly platonic friends with a teen girl. I am not going to put myself at risk of being accused of something illegal. I have several friends with daughters who would trust me, but there are many other people who are NOT friends who might accuse me of something. I don't want to get into such a conflict with a friend...it would be both embarrassing and upsetting, and it would encourage my other friends not to trust me. There is no reason I should attempt to become close friends with any of my friends' daughters.

Just as you constantly point out that the sexual aspect of our relationships is not important to fulfill, I would argue that the social aspects of our attraction base are likewise not extremely important for me to fulfill. I socialize with a few girls online, including a few girls in this community, but I completely accept the fact that I cannot socialize with teen girls that often in real life. I also disagree that the sexual aspect of our lives is LESS important than the social aspect...I deserve the right to make romantic attachments to AG's, and I am not going to stop complaining and agitating for that right, or to resign myself to the fact that it's illegal and thus modify my ethical opinions accordingly and suddenly declare the sexual aspect of my attraction base as being unimportant. I can live without being sexual with girls, and moreover, I can also live without being social with them, e.g., making platonic friendships, jumping up and down on a trampoline with a girl I like, or simply spending time talking to her. I am a girl-less GLer and though I oppose the laws and cultural mores that have forced me into this situation, at the same time I find several other things to keep myself occupied and I do not feel the constant need to whine and complain about not being able to have girls in my life. I have several hobbies and belong to a few groups that have nothing to do with GL, and these things keep me well occupied. To be totally honest, I spend more time on my various hobbies than I do with anything related to my GL, and I think I am living proof that we do not HAVE to have girls in our lives in SOME capacity in order to be contented and well-adjusted.

On the other hand, when I do become frustrated over not having any teen girls in my life, it's nice to have a place like GC to come to and complain to people who will actually sympathize and understand my plight. So you have to deal with some of the complaining you see around here...most of us will NOT find a sympathetic ear anywhere else. On the other hand, I am confident in my sexuality and I have NEVER had a breakdown over this particular aspect of my life, and though I wish I could change several things about my life, I would never want to change my status as a GLer...I simply wish I was born further into the future, when the bigotry against us and the third class citizenship of our youth were things of the past.