Re: yeah

Just for the record, I never accused you of calling GLer's who do not seek out girls as friends a coward, but that is what I have been called by others in this community for not seeking to form platonic friendships with teen girls. However, you have said that you couldn't stand not having LG's in your life in a platonic capacity. What I was saying is that not all GLer's NEED to have girls in their lives in some capacity. In real life, I don't know a single teen girl that I regularly spend time with or talk to or call a friend, yet I'm perfectly content. I'm sad about it quite often I(and what GLer wouldn't be on occasion?) but I accept it as a consequence of being a GLer in this particular time period and society.

One of the main reasons I have not gone public on the boards is because I DO NOT want my life completely defined by the fact that I'm an MAA, as was the case with Lindsay. As I said before, I have many hobbies completely unrelated to my GL, and I spend a lot more time on them than I do in my capacity as a GLer. I would much rather spend my time writing or reading than watching a legal teen modeling video, or spending time with certain people that I share a hobby with (e.g., in sci-fi and politics) than seeking out teen girls to make friends with. I know that Lindsay has many interests outside of his status as a GLer, but once he went public with his website he was socially "typecast" as a pedophile, and he is well known in the media exclusively for being an "out" GLer. The same can be said for Jack McClellan. My GL is just one small (albeit important) aspect of the person that I am, and though the various groups that I work with as per my hobbies know that I'm a hebephile they do not define me exclusively by that purpose. This is the same reason why I do not have a GL blog (though I may one day revive my GL Garden website)...I have many more things to talk about than just GL.

I may have gotten off the subject a bit with my above paragraph, but I mentioned it because I think that it helps to illustrate one of the reasons why I do not spend time trying to make friends with teen girls in real life.

I also didn't mean to suggest that you are somehow betraying the GL community by being friends with LG's without speaking out for their rights. Not everyone needs to promote youth rights to be a true GLer (though I do believe that those MAA's who actively speak AGAINST youth rights are betraying the community and the youths they claim to love), and I understand that doing so would get you into hot water with some of the parents of the girls you are friends with. Even though I am an advocate of youth rights, I do not and would not violate any of the rules that parents have set down for their kids because I understand that currently these parents have all the power. Just being a positive influence on the lives of girls is a wonderful thing for a GLer to do. We all work towards benefitting the cause in our own way, and not all of us are equally suited for the same things. However, I have been told in the past that I am somehow betraying some important rule of GL ethics by not actively seeking out platonic friendships with teen girls, and I have been accused of cruelly denying these girls what might be a beneficial friendship. I just can't risk doing so since I am out of the toybox. Thank you for not expecting me to take such risks. Sorry if I got off the subject quite a bit at various points in this post, but I had a lot on my mind.