Re: A Tough Step

Well, I did this - about seven or eight years ago now. But one thing that has to be said first: I only told him because I knew for a fact I could trust him 110% to keep a confidence. My 'secret' is in fact probably safer with him than it is even with me:) You have to ask yourself if you can trust your friend that well.

IIRC, I think I started out by saying I had something to tell him... that it was about sexuality... that I was not attracted to women. Of course he was taken aback. I let that sink in, then added 'nor to men'. After a brief stunned silence, he replied with the correct answer, and we had a lengthy talk. He doesn't 'get it' and he's not positive about it, but it didn't dent the friendship at all. We get along as well as ever. It's afforded a fair few discussions over the years.

I do sometimes consider telling another friend (who actually I think may understand more), but so far have not.

I dunno if any of that helped...heh. But the main thing is trust - if there's the merest scintilla of hesitation on your part about whether you can trust him, then definitely don't breathe a word. It really isn't worth it, all the more so as you work with children. I know how you feel there - no way on earth I'd risk my job.