Re: A Tough Step

When I came out to one of my best friends, I started it with "what do you know about sexuality" and it kind of evolved and came out like that. One of my main openings was that you are born with a certain sexuality and that you can not control or change it even if you wanted to. (this is debatable to some but not the purpose of this reply). So I said I have been this way for as long back as I could remember and was "aware" of my sexuality as early as age 12. Then went on to say that it didn't effect me when I was married but was still present the entire time. I then said someting like if I never told you this, would it have made a difference in the way you feel about me and our friendship .. I would still be the same dependable, loving, caring person .. right? .. she agreed with that logic. And as aforementioned, I knew I could trust this person. It's hard to describe why, it's just one of those gut feelings you have when you are friends. I was quick to defend myself before some questions could even be asked like have I ever touched or done anything with a LG so I told her up front that I never have or ever will. She wrote me this most beautiful 3 page letter how she felt honored that I shared such a private and personal element about myself with her and that it strengthened our friendship that much more. She was kind of relieved in one respect because she couldn't figure out why I wouldn't respond to her advances at me :-)) She thought it must be so hard to live like this with such a "secret" and wondered if it made me depressed alot. I said not really, I actually am very content about myself.

So the question you have to ask yourself is ... do you have the gut feeling that he will be open minded enough to absorb all of this. Either way, I wish you the best of luck with your decision !!