marked distress or interpersonal difficulty

You know that blurb in the DSM?: "the sexual urges or fantasies cause marked distress or interpersonal difficulty."
Am I the only one who has found that this only applies once you get pulled out of the Toy-box? It's a kind of vicious cycle; when you are confronted with those who cannot accept your orientation (Hi Mom. I know it could be worse and I still Love you but I wish you would read the Fucking book instead of flat out denying my salient points and what I feel in order to protect your own negative feelings about sexuality)
Once that happens, you find that you need people who are understanding and accepting so that you can have someone to talk to about the personal difficulties that inevitably rise. I've been very fortunate to find three people who at least listen and one of those understands me. For which I am thankful, That being noted; it is such a unique circle of Hell to have a strong, important bond with another person on a spiritual level: The desire to tell them for so many integral reasons is so strong but I feel so trapped due to the certainty that they will make horribly misguided and inappropriate efforts to "Help": That is, if they don't vow to dance on your grave first. The last thing I want is someone to tell me I'm broken or that It's because of my history, I get more than enough of that directly and subliminally already. Going by the logic of my orientation being caused by my past history, I would counter that many Lesbian Women have been abused by Men in the past: Is it therefore fair to argue that their orientation also shares a pathological basis? In any case; why should it matter if an individuals intentions are pure? I'd like to demand a better criteria for the difference between an orientation and a pathology. That's not even including the arguments about the innate sexuality of children . . . In summation, I am feeling overwhelmed. Notice?
The more I experience in regards to my orientation, the more I am convinced that other groups have been accepted by society only by capitulating with intellectual McCarthyism and expressing the same fanatical hatred for another group that the social order disproves of . . . I take Hope in that by all indications: We are the only group of individuals left that can be treated in this manner.

In closing: Dark Tranquility is not my current favorite musical group, -even though I have posted their lyrics before- however. I find their way of expressing themes of isolation and desperation to be Heart wrenchingly apt. So I present to you:

Freecard

set against these hardest hours
anger paled, for in this fear
the theft of privacy
we all see it break sometimes,
see it tear us apart
that which was left behind
screams out loud this night
so much is asked in silence
expect not and you'll find
a thousand miles
from the nearest truth
rotating, entangled
- I continue not to heal

another no-night
waits its turn
so I call upon
my freecard
to postpone

if time was one with many faces
which one would call to me?
where all our paths in one now end
that with the power to gather the mislead
now will lead them all astray
so push it even further
to unsuspecting dark
build that second layer
for the hours to take fast

a rest from the giving
like a heart between beats
greater than the need
for community
the need for the right solitude
come to know

that an outrage is inevitable
through many try
escape is unsuccessful
in the midst of a nerve-night
the victim of soulkill
true self is mere torture
death rides these nerves