Re: Suggestions right off the top

10) Love doesn't hurt people. People hurt people. People are people.

Love can have a dark side, and it's often used by people as a tool to hurt others who develop these feelings for them. When you fall in love with someone and they know it, they realize they can hurt you...which is why you need to be VERY careful with who you share your heart with. This is a lesson I obviously still need to learn.

9) If I had a dollar for every time you mentioned you're a hebephile...we get it already!

And if I had a dollar for every single obnoxious comment you made towards me when I was asking for support and every self-rightous comment, ill-conceived remark, and stupid complaint that spews out of your word processor, I would be the rich one now! If you don't like how often I mention I'm a hebephile, too damn bad. If it's relevant to the point I am making, then I will mention it. Get over it, dude.

8) Comparisons to the past lives of a selected few people discounts the experiences of the many.

But such examples still have merit and deserve being pointed out. There are plenty of non-wealthy, non-celebrities who have had successful intergenerational relationships, but these people are not known to the general public and thus I could be accused of making them up if I mention them as examples unless I can provide proof. Hence, well known/celebrity examples are usually better to point out.

7) Longing for love is not the same as longing for someone to emotionally handcuff yourself to.

Good point, and I try to keep the difference between the two in mind. However, when I fall in love, I tend to fall hard.

6) Loneliness can be one of the greatest self-gifts there is.

Try telling that to people who have been lucky enough to find true love. I bet they wouldn't trade that for the "gift" of lonliness.

5) If you're going to be temperamental, be prepared for a lifetime of loneliness.

I'm not defending my temper here and I agree that I need to keep it in check, but I will say that I have known numerous tempermental and overly passionate people who HAVE found true love.

4) Immaturity is ageist. Shame on you!

I think immaturity can be good or bad, depending on the situation, just like maturity. Too immature isn't good, but then neither is too much maturity.

3) Let love wait. Your dick and emotions will still be the same size even in old age.

In old age, I will be far less likely to find a younger woman who is willing to love me. Our ageist society considers such couplings to be "gross."

2) Speculation causes depression. Big time.

Indeed.

1) One word for overall improvement - P90X.

Um, thank you for weighing in here, Trucker. I think.