Re: I see where your coming from but...

Men and women both promote these gender specific ideals. Not only this but if parents try to raise their kid in a somewhat gender neutral way (ignoring gender is also ridiculous imo and complete gender neutrality is just as silly to me) school will then enforce the stereotypes.

Yes, and no.

Gender differences are inborn, and it is greatly likely that they are genetic.

The exceptions simply confirm the rule here. Some females will be "masculine" and some males will be "feminine", all the way from small traits to transgenderism, because whatever it is that makes one masculine or feminine (and I admit the "what" is currently unknown), in their case it is weak or even reversed.

Now of course - both men and women in a society tend to preserve, perpetuate and pass on what each culture thinks are masculine or feminine traits - and although there are clear tendencies, there are so many traits for which there are significant exceptions that it is fair to call them cultural.

Is it fair? Probably not. But neither is it fair that some people are born with a talent for music, others for mathematics, and so on. The blindness is in assuming that equally inborn talents, which were not chosen, only because they are correlated with a gender, are "inherent" in that gender and that deviations should be "corrected".