That's not really the issue for me

Work out all you like. I used to work out three times a week myself. One of the most feminine (note that I did not use the word 'effeminate' which is different) guys I've ever known was about 6'6" and built like an ox. He played football too. But he was a softy, into improving his mind, and a very sensitive soul. To me he was not masculine, but he was a real man, one of the best I ever knew. The last time I saw him was nearly two years ago. It will be exactly two years on Halloween; I saw him when I was taking K trick-or-treating in 2009. I took her into the place he was working. I wonder what became of him . . .