Re: One msg more - a surprising thought this morning

Sometimes when I'm angry I says things that, though I technically mean them at the time, after I calm down I realize that I don't mean them in general, if you know what I mean! LOL Like if someone did something that pissed me off, I might yell at them "I hate you!" At the time I say it, I do hate them, but usually I don't--in fact, I might love them a great deal most of the time. And so I would apologize and make sure they understand that I do, in fact, love them.

I'm not saying that you feel the same way, or that you should do what I do, just explaining why I might sometimes go back on something I said in anger.

And even if I did mean an insult, and still mean it, it's not always the whole picture. I might genuinely dislike something about a person, but there are often other things about that person that are good. So I might not retract the insult, BUT I might point out good stuff, too, and the end result would be more accurate, and maybe provide some comfort to the person (if I care about them--if I don't care how they feel, then I wouldn't bother).