Re: Fantastic analysis, and some words

Hi Dis,

I would like to make a few comments on your friends situation.

His counselor was dead set convinced he committed the crime despite the lack of evidence or lack of legal record on his part simply because he was accused of this type of crime.

Unfortunately for your friend or anyone in this situation by the time one is dealing with a counselor the counselor will not discuss your innocence or guilt. In his/her mind you are guilty and you need to be cured. Admitting it is the first step.

If you are truly innocent and have to go to therapy this can be incredibly difficult. If you don't admit what you are accused of you can be kicked out of the group and sent to prison for the remainder of your sentence.

I've seen a few guys in the group I was in refuse to admit they were guilty. They were shipped back to prison.

That guy over there let me play with his 'thing' for a bit,' and her mother got the wrong idea and called the police?!

If this actually happened to me at the time I would've been taken to jail. Then I would have a lot of explaining to my P.O. Hopefully he/she would believe me, or off to prison.

During the entirety of my friend's probation he would totally freak out if an underage girl came anywhere near him,

While this is hard to understand if you haven't been on probation or parole I can relate to him.

When I was on probation little girls made me nervous. Being anywhere near them made me feel very panicky. I remember shopping one time and went into an isle to buy something. There was a little girl about 5 or 6 by herself. I was scared shitless. If someone knew what I did I could have a whole heap of trouble dropped upon me.

Another time shopping it was quite busy, lots of kids running around. I had a panic attack. I went and paid for my groceries as quick as possible and got the hell out of there.

It was a very stressful time for me with the sword of Damocles hanging over my head 24/7.

According to my probation rules if I had any contact with a minor I was supposed to report it. So avoiding young girls was the best thing to do.

If I was the friend sitting in your car while on probation and the same thing happened with the little girl I would've freaked out too. I most likely wouldn't have yelled but I would've been distressed to no end.

I simply apologized and assured him I would never talk to a little girl around him again.

You did this because you were/are a good friend to this guy, you have the ability of empathy, which a lot of people do not have.

I will never forget the sheer terror of a little girl that friend of mine had that day,

To this day while not as bad as it was while on probation little girls make me a little nervous. Getting accused of something I didn't do just because I'm on the SOR is terrifying. I will never let myself alone with one. Not that I believe I would do anything illegal with them, I just don't want the trouble. If I were to ever get into trouble involving minors sexually I'm going away for a long,long time.

LITTLE GIRL LOVER