Warming up non-MAA partners to your attractions

Hi, just a reminder, I'm a female, early 20s, used to post here when I was in high school and am also attracted to young girls.

Anyway, I've mentioned in another post that I seem to end up with MAA partners whether I intend to or not. I dated someone I met off here for two years when I was first in college, and the last guy I was with turned out to be an MAA, too. Now, especially since I've actualized having an attraction to younger-than-teen girls, I've found myself happier and able to be more honest in relationships where this was a shared interest, not a guarded secret.

Well, just above, I said "last guy." Well, when I first came back to this board, he was "current guy." Had to break that up in September because even people you're sexually compatible with can be jerk wads who don't know how to treat a partner with respect or empathy. Grr...

Anyway, I've started dating again. I'm in the kink/BDSM/age play/ABDL communities where I am, but I don't limit my dating pool to those in the public scene. I also use online dating sites (don't like random pick-ups), partially because they can give you a sense of sexual compatibility, which is really important to me given my lifestyle.

I'm always pretty up front with being into age play. I'm a "little" and enjoy letting the LG part of me out with guys as well as through "role play" in more sexual exchanges. When it comes to guys, I'm most attracted to ones at least somewhat older than me that can put off a nurturing and paternal--though perverted--air with me. In the scene, we call that "Daddy energy." But, when it comes to females, I'm most sexually attracted to those my age, girl-ish cute, or younger...or much younger.

Most guys, or at least a decent number of my own sampling, are cool with or turned on by the age play stuff. However, being into age play doesn't necessarily say anything about coolness with being attracted to real children. In fact, age play and ABDL communities are hoarse from having to yell, "AGE PLAY ISN'T ABOUT PEDOPHILIA AND WE AREN'T PROMOTING CHILD MOLESTATION" to gain acceptance in the larger kink communities. Age play (playing with fantasized age disparities in sexual or non-sexual situations) has only started to become acceptable in most kink scenes, and I *still* squick some people out, but anyway.

Most guys act like it's a relief when I'll say something like, a girl younger than me is hot, or how sexy Kristen Dunst was in Interview with the Vampire or Emma Watson was, even early on in the series. Fantasy girls we've seen grow up on TV or in the movies. Cause, really, most hetero guys can find girls with secondary sexual characteristics attractive.

Do you think they'd be as accepting of a girl who, say, liked Hayden Panettiere on Law and Order: SVU better in 2001 than in 2005? All guys love a bisexual girlfriend that they can check out girls with at the mall, but what about checking out tweens?

I guess this is a question for those of you who are attracted to adult women as well as children, but most men could probably answer.

Do most adult men have *some* attraction to pre-teen children? I know it's INCREDIBLY stigmatized when males confesses this kind of thing to women, most of whom are trained to consider any male who finds someone under the age of 18 attractive to be a SEXUAL PREDATOR. Are men as programmed to find these kind of attractions UNACCEPTABLE and get all "won't someone PLEASE think of the children!" about it? What are men like about this issue when women aren't around to hear it?

I always thought it was sad that most of the people I knew here could never tell a partner because of the way society is right now. Be understood, and how important it is to feel understood, which I know is part of why this board is here. I'm just wondering about my odds of being able to be really honest with guys I'm with in the future.

Thanks.