Re: Warming up non-MAA partners to your attractions

I think if a guy tells another guy that he's into "young girls" he definitely wouldn't get as a negative reaction if he says he's specifically into children and associates with the term pedophile. Once he does mention this shocking word, most other guys who don't share the attraction will probably go into macho mode and act protective of kids and think the pedophile is sick and gross.

Now if you're a young woman and say you like really young girls (as in pedophile) I think you would just get a weirded out kind of reaction, but they wouldn't see it as such a "threat" and might be more open to listening. This is unfortunately mostly due to gender stereotyping of course. So to answer your question.

I think most guys wouldn't mind having a bisexual woman friend to check out maybe teens at the mall, but in todays society would just find it still a little to bizzare to check out tweens or kids, but not to the extent where they'd consider you a danger. All this is just speculation on my part by the way.

Do most adult men have *some* attraction to pre-teen children?

I don't think PRE-teen, that's probably still fairly rare.

Are men as programmed to find these kind of attractions UNACCEPTABLE and get all "won't someone PLEASE think of the children!" about it?

I think so, when it comes to pedophilia, maybe not so much when it comes to hebephilia, not that they would be familiar with that exact term.

I'm just wondering about my odds of being able to be really honest with guys I'm with in the future.

I also dream of having a partner one day that I'm able to be honest with about this, especially one that shares the attraction. Like I've been trying to say, I think most likely if it's a girlfriend that tells them they're into actual kids, they might find it weird, and I'd guess a 50/50 chance they'd eventually break up with you over it. Hope that doesn't sound harsh. I dunno, I lost a best friend over it, we weren't going out, but she was pretty freaked.