Re: It happened... and I am petrified

We can't make love happen on demand. And when it does happen, it often sideswipes us. But let it.

All love brings up the possibility of loss. But keeping out love to prevent pain doesn't prevent pain, it just prevents the possibility of happiness.

And a relationship, entered into, is always growing and changing. You don't own each other, and you can't freeze each other into exactly who you were when you first felt love. But you can surf the waves and allow her to grow into someone you hope that who you grow into will feel as strongly about.

In part love is about caring for her happiness as much as yours if not moreso.

I have loved and lost. I wouldn't change it for the world.

I wish you luck.

And so long as its legal and she is allowed to choose for herself without interference, then let her choose you if it will make her happy. Let third parties think what they want to. If they can't do anything, then don't let it bother you.

Dante