Re: It's usually that way, even for non's

That is why I for one feel that "marriage" as an institution is obsolete. It may have served a useful purpose in the past, and may still in areas of extreme poverty and subsistence living, but for the developed world "marriage" has evolve into little more than a tool for powerful and the elite to control the masses, or a tool for one party to stake a claim to the assets of the other.

I am married, btw, unhappily, and hope to someday dissolve the legal bonds that hold me and the wife. In all practical senses the "marriage" is already for show only, both of us know that, so eventually ending the legal formalities is in my eyes inevitable. I am also an exclusive pedothe marriage was the biggest mistake I ever made.

One of the most common hypothetical questions posed on pedo-fora is "Would you marry a little girl if you could?" I always answer "no". No matter how much I love her at 8, I know the feelings will be different at 18. At 8, I might be "in love" with her. At 18, I hope (and believe) I will still love her, but it will almost certainly be platonic love.

But getting back to the OP's questions, of course it is fair to love and "date" them when they are young and in your AOA, as long as you do not make unrealistic promises that you cannot or do not have no intention of keeping.

I still love my first LGF Jen (who is still in my AOA) deeply. But if she looked my in the eyes and told me she loved me and asked me if I would marry her when she turned 16*, I would look her in the eyes, tell her I love her too, but that I could not marry her. I am 99.9% sure I will still love her when she is 16, but I will not love her or feel about her in the way our society interprets marital love.

* In my state a 16-year-old can marry with written consent of both parents.