Re: Grow out of attraction

I said you shouldn't enter a relationship expecting it to end,

Quite incoherent for you of all people to expect something to last forever.

especially expecting it to end with both parties satisfied to move on at the same time.

I don't expect that.

As a matter of fact, all my experience tells me it never happens.

The point is, it's selfish to enter a relationship with a girl just assuming that when the time comes the girl will be ready to move on at the same time you are.

Probably yes.

But it is still deluding yourself, and lying to her by relaying to her the lies you tell yourself; to assume it will not end or it will not be painful or conflicting for either or both of you. Love is the apex predator of all; it hunts, kills and devours every heart it touches. And it is still a lie to believe that you can eliminate this risk. It's no less a lie if you change either partner's age or gender, either. Though you are right that childhood and youth experiences are more memorable and influential than later experiences.

Anything else is just leading her on, and that is cruel.

Then teleiophiles are the cruellest people in the planet.