It's always sad when someone turns out to be something other than what they tried to pass themselves off as to you in the beginning (as Griffith noted in a response about this elsewhere on the board), especially if they managed to charm the hell out of you with their bogus fawning or faux kindness early on; it's sometimes very unfortch that first impressions so often tend to be the lasting impressions for so many people, and swindlers and con artists count on this. They know that if they charm someone enough in their initial interactions, that person will likely never stop liking and supporting them no matter how much contrary evidence shows up in the future. They make an early emotional investment in the sociopath, and from that time onwards the need to believe the illusion they fell head over heels for always takes precedent over what subsequent evidence (sadly) makes clear.

However, it's not in any way sad, but instead very gratifying, when you enable your rational side to overcome your sentimental side and avoid becoming a victim or patsy of such an individual. You clearly managed to do this. Obviously he perceived you and redcocoa as easy targets for his bogus charms, just as he for some reason thought I would be quick to fall for his phony praises. But you didn't fall for it, and you should commend yourself for that, as it takes a lot of inner strength to push the rational side of your psyche to defeat its emotional side when they find themselves in conflict with each other, as all MAPs/MAAs should be quite aware of.