as oppose to launching my "shoulder mounted canon" as you say, i will try my hand at calm, cool, collective and straight to the point.

That was a ref left in regards to Predator, because the movie version of the alien human-hunters he named himself after had a lot of specialized weaponry that included a shoulder-mounted plasma cannon.

with that said unfortunately for both sides this is only an anonymous site. and you can try till your blue in the face to win people's respect but it would be impossible for you to win them all.

That is true, but you can always win the majority of people over by displaying character traits like honesty, a willingness to offer support whenever they need it, and try to maintain a good degree of civility with others as often as possible.

which luckily i have recently found a good full time job, doesn't pay much, but if i'm smart with my money will be plenty to have a loving, happy home for my family and i am proud of myself!

and frankly diss...you should be too.

If you do indeed create a happy home for you and your family in the future (and money isn't the only component necessary to make that happen, but I'm sure you are aware of that), then I will indeed be proud of you and have the utmost respect for you. Thank you for sharing all of this in a civil fashion, it was read and appreciated.