Re: Shoulder rubs? Back scratches? Foot massages?

Does the child enjoy the interaction? Does it feel good to them? Nothing much else to understand.

This is the kind of viewpoint I find problematic. If you force yourself on a woman and she enjoys it, is it no longer rape? No, whether she enjoyed it or not is beside the point. Read about some incest cases. Many victims write of enjoying the sexual contact despite it being forced on them, and that they later hated themselves and felt extreme guilt because they felt like their bodies betrayed them. Bodies can react to being stimulated, whether you desire it or not. Granted, infants probably have no conception of the issues and aren't likely to experience cognitive dissonance unless there is pain mixed with the pleasure. Nevertheless, you should NEVER take it for granted that a child or adult consented when you didn't ask them and they seem to be experiencing pleasure after you initiate sexual contact. Unlike sex, back rubs and foot massages don't come packaged up with a shitload of cultural and religious nonsense. I don't like it any more than you do, but that's how it is.