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Q just goes along because I am an adult and she has an innate need to do what I say.

Same as children famously feel an innate need to eat their veggies, brush their teeth and comply with their bedtime? Whenever this argument comes up I inevitably think the person hasn't met a kid in decades. At least in this case we're talking about kids, actual kids. It is even more moronic and funny with teens: you can manipulate them into sex, but not for them to, idk, stop texting 24/7?

Besides the obvious: if you teach children that adults around are always authority figures that they should respect and obey, well of course they will respect and obey them, sometimes to their own detriment, such as in sexual abuse. You cannot simultaneously teach the hierarchical society and expect them not to comply with it against their own wishes.

If you want to stop that compliance, you have to stop teaching the hierarchy. Which has nothing of innate in it and everything of cultural, by the way. It's no different to teaching a racial group or women that another racial group or men are always authority figures that they should respect and obey. Like with those examples, some in the lower class race and some women will respect and obey the higher group against their wishes and to their own detriment.