Keep the doors open!

Hey dude, I think I can understand how you are feeling.

Some parents are rough. I have one friend whose parents genuinely did not give the slightest fuck about his well being - it was as though they had no emotional investment whatsoever. So, my friend broke off ties with them.

But it is clear that your mom still cares about you, seeing as she was upset about you leaving and with the health insurance thing and stuff. She still loves you even though she might have issues with particular things. Don't ignore that, man - love can be hard to come by in today's world so we HAVE to acknowledge it and support it where it exists.

My mother and I went through some extreme arguments and distress after I ended up out to her some years back, and if I'd had the means to move out, I certainly would have.

The rough times between us weren't over right away - even after I finished high school and moved out, we had a few scattered arguments here and there.

But with some time, and not necessarily due to any deliberate effort, our relationship repaired itself and became stronger than it ever has been. I'm not totally sure how it happened, but we're both wiser people now. We each know, in some abstract way, a better way of handing emotional and philosophical concerns around people that we love. Our conversations and visits are the most pleasant, stimulating, and meaningful as they've been since I was a pre-teen kid. Even in the domain of girl-related things, there are indications she has great trust in me - more than she thought she'd be able to have.

We don't talk about the sticky subjects any more, and we don't feel that there is any need to.

So I'm just throwing in my two cents to remember that people can and do change. You've made your point by moving out and I think that was a wise decision. But remember to keep the doors open going forward. After enough time for the involved parties to escape the "heat of battle", they often realize that their real priorities trump whatever the issue of disagreement was.