Why do you let it get to you so much?

Man, I'm telling you this for your own benefit: you really need to:

A) Develop a thicker skin. If you let your mom's words get to this much and are willing to end a lifelong bond with her because of her beliefs, then you aren't going to fare very well out in the real world.

B) Stop being so shallow. Is you pedophilia the end-all and be-all of who you are? If so, you are pretty one-dimensional. You're going to have a tough time relating to anyone if that's case, and you are ultimately going to find yourself alone, without any friends or advocates. You think you're depressed now . . . Learn to relate to other people. Get some hobbies other than feeling sorry for yourself--hobbies you can share with other people.

C) Channel your activism into more constructive areas. For example, write some essays for GC and/or Newgon. Not angry or self-pitying tirades about how you are treated unfairly, but thoughtful essays about why society is wrong.

D) Listen to your mom about the counseling. She's right (even if for the wrong reasons.) You could use counseling because you have a lot of issues you need to work through. It's quite clear from your posts that you are still fairly young. You need to learn to temper your sharp edges, and I think counseling could help with that. You don't have to tell your counselor about your orientation, but he could probably help you with the age dysphoria. I am seeing a counselor currently. He does know about my orientation and told me up front he was not going to try to change it. I am there for anxiety and depression. I've seen several counselors, almost all of them having been told about my sexuality, not one of them was hostile with regard to my pedophilia or tried to convert me. There was one who stopped my sessions, but I never told her about my sexuality. She may have suspected it; I really don't know. But the rest of them have been fine. The reports of hostile counselors are greatly exaggerated.