It's tough.

The world turns a blind eye on the sexuality of children. If anything ever happened between an adult and child it is portrayed as completely one sided. That the adult initiated, started, pressured everything. hat couldn't be further from the truth. As we both know and many others do.

Even if you can show that children often initiate activity nons will say we should have said no and told them it's bad/wrong/only for adults.

Essentially most people are rationalizing their anti-sexual viewpoints. Sadly the will damage a previously consenting child just to make sure their view point is justified. It's a sad situation.