Re: sensually consensual

I was in a position of authority over her. I asked, she did. Occasionally, she asked and I did. Consensual? Yes and no; would a child ever have the will to say no to an adult? Did I take advantage of her? Yes. For that, I am deeply embarrassed, self-loathing, suicidal at one time. Did I force anything? No. I simply asked and she did. Did she ever say no? Of course and I respected it. Did I ever threaten? Never. Get angry? Never. Even when she did something normal that I should have gotten authoritative, I did not. I could not. She knew that and used it on me.

"If you don't ask, you don't get laid."- My father, who's somewhat of an anti

I understand that children are different from adolescents, who are different from adults, but I think some things hold true regardless of age. I think children should be allowed to say both "yes" as well as "no" to adults, let them choose. With regards to "good touch/bad touch", it should be based on whether or not it's a touch that the child wants or doesn't want, rather than merely focusing on where the child was touched and by whom which merely exists to condition the child to feel "abused", in many cases when they really weren't.

I don't understand why we can understand "no harm, no foul" when it comes to teleiophile romantic/sexual relationships, but not when it comes to inter-generational relationships. Why is "If you don't ask, you don't get laid." considered acceptable advice when it comes to dating women, but not girls? The double standards of the world continue to confound me, I'm afraid.