Re: No at any time

I haven't really gotten into the debate. I'm not much for firmly stating my opinions and providing all these sources and stuff to back up my claims, but I just kind of feel that well.. sure... I have my doubts that kids can consent if an adult just suddenly starts coming onto them sexually. I'm willing to bet most kids would be confused and kind of uncomfortable with that. And unfortunately that probably happens.

But I like to hypothetically think that if we lived in a society where it was acceptable for adults to date children, then that would be different.

Everything would be out in the open. All parties involved could discuss things, including the parents. The adult and child could gradually cultivate a relationship, build one by going out on dates and spending time together. And then maybe eventually after talking about it, lot's of communication, then maybe if the child is comfortable, intimate relations could start. Maybe just cuddling and kissing, and maybe it would eventually grow into something sexual. Kind of similar to the way many adult/adult relations happen.

That's the problem. Often when people say "kids can't consent, they don't understand what's going on", they're making reference to a scenario where an adult immediately makes sexual advances at a child, but many CL's don't want it to be that way, they want a genuine relationship.

Just a thought. It occurred to me to mention it when I read the above sentence about kids not being able to resist the sexual advances of adults. They probably cant, but I think they have the cognitive ability to understand relationships and the concept of sex if its talked about.