No ... it isn't.

My husband blames me for my daughter high needs for touch or affection from others.

That's terribly unfortunate ... and rather telling.

A child who craves affection and attention isn't a liability, but a beautiful asset every parent should be proud of. A LG's need for hugs and intimate touch is a natural extension of what I understand as a maternal bond that can be shared with the LG's father.

I wrote the leading article in the April 25th, 2013 VoA e-Zine related to "Taboo Touch" and the way our society in America has taken on negative attitudes toward consensual and loving touch with a LG. I'd recommend reading it.

Like I mentioned before on GC, my daughter loves to give hugs towards strangers, and it is a struggle to teach her personal space. She just overly affectionate towards people.

Before I say anything more I want to go on record regarding a LG wanting to give hugs to anyone, including strangers.

As long as the child does it in an environment where they won't be taken advantage of by someone with ulterior motives or crude intentions, then it's a beautiful gesture and should be supported. As long as she understands she can hug anyone while you're around, then help every guy who you might believe to be a gentle GL have a better day.

An affectionate LG is the perfect remedy to help an older [GL] stranger feel much better about himself when he doesn't have that sort of contact on a daily basis. I've had a number of wonderful moments with LG's ... complete strangers ... that turned into long and delightful conversations, both with the LG, and with her parent. I've written about a few of them on VoA.

My husband was gone a long time due to employment so my daughter was my sleeping partner when she was younger, and we spooned.

It's unfortunate your hubby was away for so long, but your having a much younger sleeping partner sounds absolutely precious. It must have been so comforting for both of you. I'm jealous. :P

I stop breastfeeding her when she was almost 4. When she was an infant, she cohabit with me and my husband in bed due to breastfeeding. Now my husband is back, and she has to be a big girl.

I've posted a number of comments about bed-sharing intimacy on VoA, and one of the conclusions I discovered during my research was a tendency for one of the adults, typically the husband, to develop resentment toward their own child because of an updated perception regarding the lack of his intimacy with his wife. This may be indicative of bigger issues.

It's possible you've heard of or read about a mother breastfeeding, or allowing her son to suckle, even after the child was nearly a teen. Some research I've been doing for another potential article for an upcoming VoA e-Zine illustrated a tendency in "modern" women to permit a child, or more, to enjoy that sort of intimate contact, even though no nourishment is being provided to the child.

Many studies have been done, lots of articles have been written, and there's heated debate regarding the "acceptability" of such a beautiful activity between a mother and her child, especially if that child is a sexually developing/developed male.

Personally I think people need to keep their noses out of other people's bedrooms. If a woman and her child both enjoy the feeling and intimacy, then love should prevail.

My husband thinks she use the nightmare excuse so she could sleep with us, and I agree. You don't get a nightmare after 5 minute of sleep.

Forgive me, but ... just this last week I had a horrible nightmare less than five minutes after going to bed that was so terrifying I had to get up, spend a few minutes on the treadmill, and only after I was able to calm my mind could I go back to bed.

Nightmares are tricky things, because they're windows into a person's soul. They reveal much more than people give credit for.

Now ... to be fair your LG most likely misses your shared intimacy, and to be honest ... ANY person who enjoyed and became accustomed to that sort of comfort would become restive and upset if it was suddenly discontinued.

You might need to provide some temporary comfort in her bed until she goes to sleep, and include lots of "big girl" talk along the way, until she's more comfortable on her own. I've learned that LG's are tremendously sensitive creatures, and they should be handled with more care than most adults. I hope things work out.

Sometime I wonder because I decrease the amount of attention I give her, she replacing it with others.

Not only does this sound plausible, it's a primary reason LG's seek out dangerous liaisons with neighborhood boys, men, and perfect strangers.

If they don't get the love and affection they need at home, they'll seek out the next best source. We can only hope that "source" is a loving, gentle, and decent GL who knows to treat his new friend with the utmost respect.

This may sound crude, and you might raise more than one eyebrow, but it would be an honor to befriend your LG, or ANY child, who needed to share their affection in a decent, consensual, and innocent manner. Many a wonderful relationship was established because a LG found what she craved in a gentle man who had similar needs.

I genuinely wish you're able to resolve this without any harm coming to your darling LG.

Look for the latest VoA e-Zine and read my article. It might provide additional insight into what I discovered.