You make the point that a gay man may understand women better than straight men, and lesbians may understand men better than straight women - but is that based on impartiality or on shared experience?

And as I pointed out, even if they understand that does not mean they have any interest in meeting needs and wants. Shouldn't that desire to meet the needs of others count for something?

I agree that most parents care about their own kids, and even that a considerable number of professional care-givers care about kids in general, but it is also quite clear that some parents and many professionals do not care about kids - or at least that they care more about their current flame, their career, their personal prestige, or their misinterpretation of the world view of pastoralists who died three thousand years ago. It is clear that many of these care-givers do not have enough interest in children to actually listen to them, and prefer to spend their time imposing their own views on their charges. Tell me again why someone who takes the time to observe and listen to children will automatically be less capable of making good decisions?

Of course, even based on your presumptions an exclusive girl lover like myself should be able to understand boys, and an exclusive female boy lover might be the best person to understand girls. Why is it that my personal memories of what boys were like when I was a boy matches the beliefs of boy lovers better than the beliefs of religious zealots and anti-sexual professionals?

Of course, there is also another possibility - that the focus on keeping girls and girl lovers apart is driven by women who recall quite well that young girls love men and know that men love young girls - and these women will do everything they can to destroy the ability of young girls to compete with them for the affections of their prey. Curiously, this view is most common among gay men and boy lovers - those who you would seem to endorse as the most disinterested and insightful observers of women's nature.