Rainbowloom here. I was just thinking about my fellow peds out there who might be struggling with their identities. I don’t mean the members of this board, I mean the lurkers, the ones who come here to read but are still too afraid to post. I figure they have to exist, because let’s face it, where else can they go if they’re attracted to children, and feel that maybe it’s not such a bad thing after all? GC is one of the few places we’ve got, as far as having a safe haven where we don’t have to feel so judged...

...which is why I want to make it crystal clear, right now, that I’m not attempting to cast negative judgements on ANYONE by making this post. I don’t assume that any GC’er is anything less than an honest, decent, law-abiding human being, and that’s a promise.

But here’s the thing (and in this next paragraph you’re about to find out why that little disclaimer just now was necessary): thinking about the lurkers got me thinking about another group of people, a group we tend to care about very deeply on this board: our girls. I started to speculate that some of those lurkers might be at particularly vulnerable, insecure points in their respective lives, which led me to speculate that those particular lurkers might be... well... particularly impressionable. I began to have this terrible thought: what if one of those lonely, struggling peds decided to risk it all, against their better judgment, and start a sexual relationship with his little girlfriend? What if he had been browsing Girl Chat just days earlier? What if I could’ve stopped him...?

I’m sure you’ve figured out by now why I felt the need to make it so crystal clear that I wasn’t casting judgments. This is a completely personal thing that has nothing to do with the rest of you - once again, I’m not accusing anyone here of anything, and that’s a promise. This is a personal obligation for me; it’s something I feel I just gotta’ do. I have to make this statement to our lurker friends. So, here goes nothing:

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Look, dude, (or dudette, for all you female lurkers): I don’t think you should have sex with your little girlfriend. It’s just an all around BAD IDEA in my opinion.

No, I’m not saying that your feelings are inherently bad or harmful to her. No, I’m not saying that if every other person in the world wasn’t so opposed to the relationship, it couldn’t possibly work out somehow. What I’m saying is that if you had sex with your little girlfriend, in today’s social context, with all of the pedo-hysteria swirling around you, you would be taking an undeniably huge risk, not only for yourself, but also for her.

Think about it: would you not be risking your princess’s well-being? Is that something a pedo, a girl lover, should ever do?

Why would it be risking her well-being, you ask? Well... there are plenty of reasons - I’m sure you might have read about many of them already in some of the posts here on Girl Chat - but I’ll give you one as an example: secrecy.

Imagine your little girl doesn’t manage to keep the secret: you know what happens then? First of all, your ass goes to jail, without question (and no, it doesn’t matter that she said “yes”). Second of all, she will be subject to years of “therapy”, wherein they convince her that she is an eternal victim, that you are a disgusting, terrible person, and that what you did with her was inherently harmful and abusive simply because she was a lot younger and less developed than you at the time (and no, it still doesn’t matter that she said “yes”).

OTOH, imagine your little girl does manage to keep the secret for a long time: if she later feels conflicted and/or upset about it, (and I’m not saying it will happen, just that I think it’s a possibility, because although she may have said "yes" at the time, everyone else in her life will be dutifully trying to convince her that it was harmful and abusive), it's quite likely she will have no one to talk to - at least not if she doesn't want to destroy your life and make hers a living hell in the process.

Now the secrecy factor is just one reason, albeit a major one in my opinion, why I think it’s a bad idea that you should have sex with your little girlfriend; and as you can see (if you followed my logic), there is already a huge possibility of creating either a future complication for her or a big, horrible mess for both of you (and in my experience, most often it’s the latter). And although I think society is probably wrong about sex with kids being inherently harmful and abusive, they’re completely right about the fact that if you touch that sweetheart, even at her request, you risk seriously screwing up your lives. Seriously. If you really care about that little girl, (as I'm sure you do), at least until society goes through some significant changes, you might want to consider listening to the majority on this one.

And by the majority, I mean not only the majority of society, but I also mean the majority of GCer’s on this website. I’ve only been here four months, but (and any GCer’s reading this, please correct me if I’m wrong) I’m pretty sure there’s a general concensus among us that, as long as pedos are still being thrown in jail and girls still being subject to years of “therapy” for non-abusive relationships, becoming sexual with them is just a really, really BAD IDEA.

So please, dude, (or dudette): don’t have sex with her.

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Alright, I’m done! Sorry, everyone, I just had to get that off my chest. I couldn’t stop thinking about those “what-if’s”, ya know? Still, I’m sorry if this bothered anyone, and thank you all for your understanding. Also, I'm sorry this ended up being so freaking long.

By the way, I’m sure any number of you will find any number of things to disagree with here, and while that’s totally cool (honestly, I’m not even sure if I agree with everything, LOL) I do believe I’ve said all I wanted to say, and I’ve made my point well enough, so I wont reply to any message posted in this particular thread.

(Oh, and don’t worry, LOL, this won’t become a regular thing.)

- RBL