"I see those who say, "I am deaf and am not missing anything whatsoever!" as a marginal, radical few."

They exist solely in your imagination.

Now I don't know how many you see in RL, because it sounds like you have never been welcomed as a houseguest by a differently-abled friend. And at the rate you're going you never will.

However, "I'm deaf and there's nothing inferior about my culture and language," would be a dirt-common statement of pride.

Ferinstance; "It's a special place because Gallaudet is the center of deaf culture and deaf history. If you grew up in a deaf family, chances are your mother went to Gallaudet. Your father went to Gallaudet. Probably your mother and father met at Gallaudet. You may wish that someday you may think that your kids will go to Gallaudet. It's the center of deaf education, but also deaf culture."

......

"But there is more of a history in the deaf community. And Gallaudet is a special place where they often come together. It's a — people come together because they have this thing in common, that they communicate by sign."

And;"But the point that I wanted to make was that it's very hard for hearing people to understand how deep this concept of deaf culture is. Many deaf people do not see themselves as a disability group. They see themselves as a language minority, and they have very strong ownership over this culture."

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=6189253

Howabout; "From Dr. Bill Vicars' ASL University:

"Deaf culture consists of the norms, beliefs, values, and mores shared by members of the Deaf community. We believe that it is fine to be Deaf. If given the chance to become hearing, most of us would choose to remain Deaf. We tend to congregate around the kitchen table rather than the living room sofa because the lighting is better in the kitchen. Our good-byes take nearly forever, and our hello's often consist of serious hugs. When two of us meet for the first time we tend to exchange detailed biographies and describe our social circles in considerable depth."

http://www.deaf-culture-online.com/deafculture.html

If you can't see why so many wrestle over the destruction of a thriving culture, then you really will never understand that they are sincere.

You want to believe that they're marginal. They've only been marginalized, and the Internet makes them less so. As with everything online communities pop up that no one would be introduced to by their parents. And this matters all the moreso to cultures which are very real indeed, but are not parental legacies.

Really. Get out more. Make queer friends offline. Visit the disabled in their homes and see what they say among friends when they know they won't be judged or dismissed. Reality is an eye-opener.

"I'm fine the way I am and accept myself totally, but I am also unusual in a way that makes a fulfilling life inherently more of a challenge, and I would wish a newborn baby boy not turn out to be unusual in the way I am."

Compare how the "but" clause negates all that precedes it with the following;

"Some of my best friends are Jewish, but.............. "

"Look, I apologize. I was wrong, but................."

Is there any reason to accept the sincerity of the latter apology? Hint, guys might miss the nuances in favor of overwhelming verbiage in whatever rationalization follows "but;" however women won't. Try that apology out on the spouse at your own peril.

The latter condition about life's challenges has no bearing on self-acceptance. Structuring it as such places a qualifier on self-acceptance to indicate that there's still more work you need to do.

"There's nothing wrong with me. I am OK just as I am,"

is not incompatible with;

"I'd like to finish Gibbon's Decline and Fall someday."

or,

"My penmanship isn't very good."

or,

"I could stand to lose quite a bit of weight."

or,

"It kinda sucks that I don't have a GF."

We all have room to grow and we all have limits and challenges.

I might as well be deaf in a room full of Chinese speakers. And if my ability to acquire new languages has reached a plateau, then I will always be deaf that way. No shame or broken about it.

And if you're so young that you don't know any level of infirmity, then just wait thirty years and tell me whether it should be a limitation on "I'm a good person who doesn't need to change."

"But if you wish to conclude, "We pedophiles are just as normal and whole and complete as deaf people and blind people", then I'll leave it to the readers to sort that out with regard to their own beliefs and assumptions."

Go ahead, just try saying that to a handicapped person. If you don't get a horsewhipping at the very least you will never get invited back. ( And I wonder why you seem so inexperienced. )

How about, "We Pedophiles deserve to take the same pride in our abilities language culture and selves as deaf people." There now, I've corrected your sentence so you don't get laughed out of the room at VirPed's "speaking" engagement at Gallaudet University.

Full acceptance always starts with the "radical few" until it becomes so self-evidently clear that it seeps into the culture. The seeds of self-loathing are hard to eradicate in any community which suffers from the disparaging claims and doubts about sincerity that some toss around casually. But if your lucky enough to be invited to participate as an honorary peer in any other Pride community then you will see that we don't have to figure this out in ignorance nor cease before we reach the standard all others know in their due.

Dante