GirlChat #602217
Actually, A LOT of the contemporary advocacy against relationship violence is premized on the No True Scotsman. If your boyfriend {X, Y, Z} to you, he doesn't love you / that is not love. Before reading your post, I was assuming Madscience was just being an etymological purist. But after reading your post, I think it's clear that he is just applying the same standards of contemporary campaigning against relationship violence to intergenerational relationships. I tend to agree more with him than you, but your points are important to make because it is very often that we mislabel something else as love. And we must not treat personal or social dependence, or the building of relationships of domination with alternating violent and charismatic episodes (which is what they really are) as love; but neither must we deny them when they exist; more over we have to understand the dynamics involved and the feelings created. And their implications, even when they include interpersonal violence. |