"Any suggestions?"

Stop identifying yourself as an ex SO and learn how to detach yourself from that legal title, learn what has to do with the juridical name vs human being, how to use it, and study what David-Kevin Lindsay is teaching on how to file criminal charges to government officials when police won't, they can't force contract over you.

It's a long journey, but as long as you'll be playing their game you'll be under their abuse.

L2