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Love Is (Repost)

Posted by Silver Wolfe on Wednesday, September 24 2014 at 06:28:43AM



Love Is




  • Listening- Appreciate the fact the person you love has concerns, feelings, thoughts and ideas, and they need to express themselves to you to realize their own self worth. Part of listening properly is giving positive feedback and support. You don't have to have all the answers or even agree with everything; that's why opinions are what they are. If something they've said is unclear, ask for a clarification. Respond to what they are saying; don't veer off to some other topic. That's rude and it gives them the feeling you don't care. If their discussion is making you uncomfortable, let them know... but that does not make what they are saying any less important.


  • Openness- Don't hide things from someone you love. Keeping personal secrets from the one you love is selfish. Selfishness will manifest and trust becomes broken. Intentionally keeping such personal secrets undermines the relationship and causes stress, discord and resentment. This applies not only to 'secrets' but to feelings, concerns, ideas... whatever is on your mind. Don't suppress yourself, just make sure you express yourself clearly and in a manner appropriate to their ability to understand -- a post-graduate doctorate level discussion of psychoanalytical methods is going to be lost on a four year old. (had to edit graduate as jd would point out that post-PRESCHOOL-graduate level discussion is elementary for said four year old... *sigh*)

  • Valuing- Recognition for accomplishments, however small, build confidence, hope, self-esteem and self worth. Beyond recognizing success, appreciate and value the person. Assure them they really mean something to you by spending quality time with them, doing things they want to do. No, TV is not an option. Just because their choices of activities are not in your top 5, top 10 or even top 100 doesn't mean you can't enjoy it. You might learn something you never knew about your partner while engaging in a tea party or a good session of Godzilla Eats The World (insert popular monster theme.) Tell them they are special to you and be prepared to explain why and prove it -- be sincere!


  • Encouraging- Part of being supportive to a loved one is encouraging them to participate in the world around them and excel at whatever it is they choose to involve themselves with. Be positive. Don't do everything for them, but let them know you are there should they become lost or have difficulties. Let them know you have confidence in them, even if they've made mistakes in the past. Remember, Success is never accomplished without failures; if everything we did always succeeded we would learn nothing for when something fails. Keep the spark that is creativity and imagination alive in every single person you love. But make sure they know of the risks and how to overcome those potential obstacles. Learning the hard way has its merits, but sometimes... forewarned is forearmed.







  • Involving- Take time to show your loved one your world. Including them in your activities (if they want) or involving yourself in their activities speaks volumes for caring about someone. It shows interest and desire to be with them. It also encourages them to do what they love to do. Participate with them, but don't try to lead -- that's a no no! Involvement with each other's lives also expands horizons and develops a sense of belonging together.



  • Sharing- If you see a beautiful cloud formation, show your partner! Found a wonderful poem? Share it. Have an interesting thought? Share it. Sharing, like involving, creates the feelings of belonging, togetherness and being interested. Spreading beauty is a wonderful thing. But share pains and sorrows as well. This lets your loved one know you have feelings and emotions, too. Don't be selfish or think you are protecting them from something. You just might be dealing with something they have already been through or will go through in the future; you might get unexpected support and knowledge, or you just might be giving them the tools to deal with something later on. Share your lives.




Love is all of these things and more. Love is an unconditional mix of feelings and actions. Love is a powerful and wonderful thing. Love, true love can conquer anything between two people, and can accomplish anything around the world if love would only grow. It takes the seed. It takes one to spread love before love can grow.



Peace, LOVE and WONDER FOR ALL!!!



^Silver Wolfe~~






Silver Wolfe





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