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Let me try this again

Posted by sadlife on Monday, October 20 2014 at 0:25:53PM

Two friends (plus Ethan) have told me that I over-reacted to this post by Ethan:

http://www.annabelleigh.net/messages/603769.htm

I accept that I did. If Ethan was trying to see if he could start some shit with his 'sexual abuse investigation' attitude, I fell for it. As is typical for him, follow-up posts find him so surprised. As the great protector of girls, he's just trying to keep everyone safe. After the attack, he backs away as the poor misunderstood good guy (virtuous).

So, I'll try to respond to this post WITHOUT over-reacting:

what I do get: substantial possibility for iatrogenic harm (at least), we all know that if those activities were known to any adults they would be regarded as very alarming. She has a secret that she cannot freely share with some other trusted adult. Or if she does, it is likely to start a sexual abuse investigation.

I don't know what virtual pedophiles consider to be 'too old' to share bath time with a parent nor do I know what is considered the 'normal' age to not allow this anymore. But this kid still needs help and still enjoys some company at bathtime. Her big sis has told her she should bathe alone at her age and we stopped as you know because of that. But g9 asked to have me there again and Princess Leia agreed that she comes out as dirty as she went in if she doesn't have help. Big sis gave a 'meh' and that was that - I started assisting her again.

I am very self-conscious about being around girls in my AoA and take care and pride in my self-control and redirection of my pedophilia toward positive influence and I religiously avoid doing or saying anything that could damage my girls. They are the world to me and I know the risks of being a pedophile with girls in your life. It is a serious responsibility to me. I don't take well to anyone that jumps to conclusions that I don't have their welfare topmost in my thoughts and actions.

Now, if you are merely suggesting that I should consider the possible later iatrogenic harm of helping g9 with her bath at her age, fine. The tone of the post clearly does not support this. I'm not worried about it and no-one else in the family is either. I've asked. There is no secret to be found here. Even my ex-wife knows that I help g9 bathe, my ex does the same and we have shared techniques to help her improve her hygiene.

You might be right about your claim in a subsequent post that nine year olds do not need to wash past the outer labia, I don't know. Although I have only asked her to wash and not specified how 'deep' to go, I agree that soap could be the problem (pain while peeing after a bath as reported by g9 for the reason she does not want to wash there). That was the reason for the rinse thoroughly suggestion.

Now Ethan, you are ruining a perfectly good GM story with your doubts and false assumptions. Nobody wants all this 'medical' detail in a GM.

You don't 'do' GM's and it's obvious that you don't particularly care for them but I think they are the heart of this board. I believe they demonstrate the pedophile as a loving human and not a monster. So your attack of mine is actually very hurtful to me.

In spite of my time spent here to try to 'bring you up to speed' on this mysterious 'other culture' you imagine I live in, based on your past posts, I don't expect that you will see the light and give me that apology that I deserve. But I don't care. You are not an important person in my life. The important people think that that culture is just normal life.

In my over-reaction to the bathtime stuff, I overlooked the most important part of your post; the 'uneasiness' of the romantic relationships that pedos develop with children. I completely disagree with your comments regarding that. IMO, any parent, grandparent, uncle, cousin, friend, etc. that cares for children will express any romantic feelings if they exist. They owe this to the child. Children should not be 'protected' from romantic feelings by the adults around them. Expressing a romantic feeling for a kid results in warm radiant smiles from them. I suggest you try it.

Romantic: Conducive to or characterized by the expression of love.


sadlife





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