I've been thinking about the concept ever since Dante introduced it to me.

How to avoid it? Or at least supress it?

There is reciprocity in the relationship, and it is not imagined. My girl and I have been through a lot and have developed a strong bond. Anyone can see that the affection is certainly, inarguably mutual. :)

The thing is, even though my feelings about her are not limerent at their core, the conditions of the relationship (the social taboos, her limited freedom, the personal insecurities caused by the "little girls just don't have those feelings" false notion which has been conditioned into me over the years, the barriers which prevent the relationship from evolving) are unfortunately REALLY conducive to limerence.

And every so often I will find myself slipping into a limerent state.

It's not good. I wish to avoid that mindset completely and simply enjoy my relationship for what it is, for what it is allowed to be. Is this even possible? At least it must be possible to develop certain strategies to suppress it so that it doesn't have a negative impact.

Limerence seems to come along less frequently these days, as my love for her deepens. But I've sadly gotten no better at suppressing it when it does decide to rear its ugly head....

- Rainbow