Very good point on the relationship dynamic with a child lover and a child. The child generally has less invested and is much more pansexual about the whole thing. They can move from "lover" to "lover" without much issue. So they hold the emotional power.

To address your last point. The reason I don't talk about incest and suggest leaving it illegal as it is for now in regards to children (nuclear family incest) is because of those power dynamics.

You give delicious food for thought Entelechy!