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Re: Should I give a damn 'bout my reputation?

Posted by Dante on Wednesday, October 29 2014 at 07:12:25AM
In reply to Should I give a damn 'bout my reputation? posted by CrimsonVampire on Wednesday, October 29 2014 at 06:51:52AM

You have a better sense of the tolerances of the neighbors and of her likeliness to date you than I do.

However.

At least in my social circle, two people happy to be with each other trumps most notions of May-December any day. You will both be legal age, so she can and should be with whoever she wishes. And when yours is a meeting of souls most will then judge your ages closer than they are.

I have no idea how old you are, she is, or the gap. But......

There was 8 years between Beatrice and I. But with the same attitude between, us her friends assumed I was younger, and mine assumed that she was older than she was. The fact that our minds were in unison persuaded everyone.

OTOH, one girl I had a crush on was not interested in same-age me in HS and was more into sophisticated older guys. She zipped through her college studies and in no time had an older German BF from studies abroad. But I knew up close that she wasn't jaded, but was just more interested in things I was not ready yet to appreciate. She would've blended seamlessly into his crowd and stood out in mine. So, again, meeting of the minds persuades folks that ages are different.

AND, some folks actually ARE more similar in age and must still face prejudice. I knew a gal in her early 30s. A former nurse. She'd met a guy only about 10 years older and married him. But he was balding and prematurely grey. She was an Irish freckle-faced gal who could pass for a high-school girl. She and her husband were closer in age than me and my ex, but she got the "are you with your grandfather?" bit ALL the time. At some point love mattered more than caring what strangers thought. Those who were close enough to care knew the truth and didn't judge.

So there's a lot I don't know. But absent any other factors than fear of what strangers might think, I'd say, go for it if you think she's interested.

And crank up the Joan Jett while you're at it.

Dante

Dante





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