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Re: Weird ass place

Posted by Dissident on Thursday, October 30 2014 at 03:28:02AM
In reply to Re: Weird ass place posted by sadlife on Wednesday, October 29 2014 at 7:44:51PM

Unless BK has saved every one of his posts and the responses or unless he has some special magic to make the search function at GC work, I don't see how he can possibly 'prove' his statements.

In a way, Your (Dissident's) responses here prove BK's point. Even if BK's 'facts' are off a little, it is important that he has that take away. As I recall, BK's posting on GC and his 'treatment' by much of the board occurred many months (or even a year) ago. Does he really now need to dig all of that up to express his feelings on this?


I made that request of him out of fairness to all concerned and accused. I wanted to know if his statements were "off," as you put it, i.e., misunderstandings or misinterpretations. I also wanted to make sure they weren't biased in favor of the anti-choice stance, since those individuals tend to be quite insulting and provocative in their own right; or on the other hand, biased in favor of any poster who happens to represent a perceived underdog when their conduct is certainly no better than any posters who hold the majority view. Granted, it would be a major pain in the ass for BK to attempt to use the search engine here to uncover those "for instances" I requested. But even with that acknowledged, is it entirely fair to take all of his sweeping accusations at face value, without any consideration that misunderstandings may have occurred?

Regarding "support". Every time I have seen a post that asked for support, that poster was first reminded by the mods that this is NOT a support group. Following are often a couple of 'shut up you self hater' comments. I gave up thinking a person could get any kind of support or help at GC in my first few weeks here.

I honestly believe that is a misunderstanding on your part, as support is most definitely one of the many purposes our all-purpose board serves for GLers. Based on reading between the lines of your complaint--and BK's--and based on my own extensive experience here, I get the impression (as I noted to BK) that the individuals you mention being admonished likely did one of those things. Either they didn't come here for support per se, but instead came here to vent, and did so by attacking the posters here. That sort of hostile and accusatory venting is most definitely not permitted here. Or, alternatively, they did initially come here for support, but once they heard the pro-choice stance presented to them as an alternative to their feelings, they reacted with hostility or heated dismissal, and eventually tried the patience of others trying to provide support. Please keep in mind, my friend, that all of us have feelings, and most of us can be very sensitive to such hateful attacks for obvious reasons, even though we try hard to understand where the person making those attacks is coming from.

Of course, and regrettably, I have to concede that there are some pro-choicers on this board who have pronounced anger issues, and will respond with hostility like you described right off the bat, and that is an issue we need to deal with, but I disagree that this board is infested with such people. I think the majority of us here will try to be supportive when presented with someone coming here for that, regardless of their views, but a chronic refusal to listen and/or hostility from them should be expected to eventually elicit a similar response from those trying to help them. I believe the great majority of us are good people, but alas, none of us are saints. The fact that we're human sort of gets in the way of that, unfortch.

Some of it is hurtful, whether intended or not. That, to me, is a shame as I wish we (girl and boy lovers) could be more polite to each other. It ain't easy being a boy/girl lover; it's nice to have a safe place to gather and 'talk'.

Please note what I said above. Also, for what it's worth, I should mention that the rules of conduct here are much more heavily enforced that you see on BC.


Dissident, you are a powerhouse of knowledge and inspiration here. You are often over my head and I don't understand everything you say and I don't need to.


Actually, I honestly believe my intelligence is on the lower spectrum compared to most of the "loud" people here. I don't think I'm dumb, of course, but I certainly pale compared to, for example, the likes of Dante, Baldur, 28 (when he bothers to post these days), qtns2di4, and particularly JD420! I also sincerely believe that Markie, despite my issues with him under general principles, has a degree of intelligence that I lack. I think I actually get smarter and increase my knowledge base by association with you guys :-)

I am admittedly pro-choice and pro-contact ultimately but please listen to BK. He has some valid points here.

I shall, and I did. I also, of course, ask him to likewise listen to what I had to say about these matters, both in my responses to him and to you here.

Thank you for expressing your concerns, and for your kind words.



Dissident





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