How hard life is for some just being their full faceted selves. Even with the pedophile related problems put aside for a second, it's a struggle for many. The last thing most of us need on top of that is the full weight of being labeled with the worst thing you can call someone in modern day Western society. Every gay man in America didn't need to out himself in the 1950s or even 60s or the next few decades after that to make progress. They came out when the time was right in the right way. Some are still in the closet to varying extents, and that's OK if that's the right choice for them.

Most of you here don't know what it's like to be constantly identified and judged as a minority, often in a negative way. I do. This is of course moderated by the great deal of progress that racial minorities have made in my country. But I have enough issues dealing with that to have to worry about throwing the "P-word" label into the mix and automatically losing all of the allies I would normally have as a minority.

I'll make a deal with you: I will come out of the closet as soon as the societal tolerance of pedophiles or people perceived as pedophiles is at the level of tolerance for racial minorities, not even what it is today with Obama as president, but what it was in areas outside of the US South and other racist hotbeds in the late 60s or 70s. But until then, basically none of us have any reason to come out, and even then, many of us will not, and with good reason.