You, like the public in their use of the term, have it backwards. For me, as pedo, grooming is just being nice (as has been already mentioned) without expectation of result.

Grooming is more about what sexy kids do to pedos. We've talked about this, they know us without having to be told. And, depending on their family, social, and cultural situation, they groom us to be sexual with them or to not be sexual with them, or more often something confusingly in-between.

Ive read that much of the cp being used as legal warfare against pedophilia has as it's main character a happy giggling child having, what appears to be, a pretty fun time with an adult. That must be a result of the first type of grooming.

I only experience the second type, I think because my girls are so damn smart that they are keenly aware of their family, social, and cultural situation in regards to me, as title of grand father. Their discipline and self-control is admirable. Advanced beings still in touch with the source.

Pedo grooming such as mine is not vested in change because it is governed by the ethic that I do not lead, therefore I do not expect anything from them. [I might follow under ideal circumstances (but you didn't hear that from me).]

OTOH Kid Grooming expects a regiment in behavior. It is intended to set limits. My girls have clearly set their limits, as they should, and as I am grateful, respectful, and in great admiration of. They are awesome beyond anything I could have invented even only in my sweet imagination.

Grooming works both ways. It's not limited to 'pedo to the kid'. To think otherwise would be to dismiss the value of the kid's experiences and livelihood. By far, the most dominant grooming is done by the kid on the pedo.



. . . I hear you and love you little ones and I'm here for you . . .