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Introductions?

Posted by Dante on Sunday, December 14 2014 at 06:25:07AM
In reply to Re: Here is a Wiimote dosn't nintendo sound like fun? posted by SierraWhiskey on Saturday, December 13 2014 at 2:14:31PM

RLY?

Can we really presume that no child masturbates unless an adult specifically shows them how?

Methinks you might want to visit Boychat if you're gonna take the concept of sexual mentoring this far.

Nope. Humans are already sexual without any need to be taught that some things feel good. Just as nobody has to formally "introduce" the child to any other sort of play. In the absence of an "introduction" can we really assume that children wouldn't play, or sing, or......

Yes there are formal cultural rituals which require instructions. OTOH, many of these are transmitted from child to child without adult "introductions;" forinstance many of the "clapping" games girls play morph over time through girl-girl cultural transmission, but don't wither for lack of an introduction by a properly supervising adult.

Not that this should be meant to imply an Ethanian notion that adults should refrain from any positive affectionate expressions around children if it violates the "rights" of a parent to isolate and deprive their child of any information or physical affection ( provided that such neglect remains within the bounds of the law. ) I'm not talking about how little a child needs. Just pointing out that sexuality ( unlike the US Tax Code ) is something a child already grasps in part and is curious enough about to figure out a lot prior to "introduction."

Jocelyn Elders was crucified for pointing out the obvious about the role of adults in helping further promote sex-positive mental hygiene.

Kids are already sexual. And already curious and asking about what others do and about what works. We aren't introducing anything when we treat sex like any other thing and give them some of the info we have learned rather than simply letting another child or the Intarwebz do all the supplemental instructions.

If we truly care, then we don't create an enforced dependence on the goodwill of some self-appointed gatekeeper who bars all knowledge that a child wants but that the guardian wishes to deprive them of "for their own good." In reality you don't teach anyone a "thing," you teach them how to teach themself. And that necessarily involves navigating a world of contradictory claims.

Gatekeepers believe that they can actually prevent the child from encountering this info. But it is being transmitted out there by children and others. All that gatekeepers can do is ensure that the unseemly dialogue is going on behind their back.

Those who tell a child, "not now, when you're ready," are going to find that they have written themself out of what the child is already doing.

As for sex-toys. Some dig through the 'rents underwear drawer and find 'em. For others the topic is already in the air. Tweens are a lot smuttier than anyone really wants to give them credit for.

Biographic note. I was still in primary school at the dawn of the Disco craze. An 11 year old girl in my class was singing the song "Disco Duck" at recess, only she'd substituted her own lyrics for the amusement of her girlfriends; it was now "Dildo Duck." And thus little Dante asks his mum the question, "What's a dildo?"

Dante




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