Having been in similar situations...

...I know what you're going thru. The "line", as it were, is not easy to define. Sure, there are those among us who would suggest that a GL'er never be alone with a girl, or even be AROUND kids. That is total non-sense of course. Girl lovers should have children in their lives. We should not be avoiding them.

This said, what to do when you're alone with a girl? Well, first, I'd like to point out the VERY obvious by saying do NOT do anything sexual with the girl...even if she wants you to. The risks are CLEARLY not worth it...but you know that already.

Now, is a "kiss" sexual? What about asking for a kiss? Personally, I would not feel it is my place to ask a lg for a kiss. Most of the time lg's will ask if they can kiss you...especially the little ones, it's their way of showing you they like you, and is generally nothing more than a sign of affection and not sexual.

When the girl is OLDER, like this 11 year old, you need to be VERY careful my friend. What if she DOES want you to kiss her? I think it might be VERY easy to let things go further than that...and it would all happen in a heartbeat. Besides, like you said, all it takes is ONE person to see you kissing that girl and you're all done.

I think you handled the situation with this girl very well. It is not easy when you are right there in the moment to make decisions like this, often times your judgement will be a little impaired and something may seem like a good idea at the time...and later you'll say "What the HELL was I thinking?".

It's always good to kinda plan ahead, as it were, so you can avoid any potentially "explosive" situations. For example, plan on this happening again (it may or may not)with this girl and make some choices NOW about what you wanna do when you get there. There is nothing wrong with some cuddles and hugs, and even an occasional friendly little kiss...but we always have to be careful to watch what we're doing.

I hope this was helpful for you. I need to search the archives for you and find my old posts (about four years ago!) when I was posting about my little cousin who kept trying to get me to "play" certain games with her. She was 5 when she started this and even though I absolutely adored her...I always had to push her away.

There are those who would say "You don't know what she REALLY wanted"...but when a 5 year old grabs your hand and pulls it toward her crotch and tries to masturbate herself on it...well, it's pretty hard to misinterpret that! (and YES, I did pull my hand away!...and NO, it wasn't easy for me to do that, and YES she did keep trying...*SIGH* those were some REALLY trying times for me my man...well, at any rate, my "struggles" with her are in the archives. If you search under my nic and look at some of the early posts I made you'll find them. Perhaps some of those posts or the replies might help you too.

Glad you're here at GC my friend.

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