The fact of the matter is, theorizing about it is either deluding ourselves about the reality of the situation, or engaging in (therapeutic?) wishful thinking.

Perhaps - but this statement would appear to be predicate on the premise that no change ever occurs; most buddhist, for instance, would tell one the opposite. Change is a natural and universal law - perhaps the only one.

To me, the only way pedos are going to make progress is to give the mainstream a reason why they should not fear us.

I propose the exact opposite; that we are not going to make progress until we give the mainstream a reason why they should fear us.

You yourself note certain supporting evidence.

Repeat over and over again, as a mantra if need be, that the majority of child sexual abuse occurs within the nuclear or extended family, and is perpetrated by heterosexuals, not pedosexuals.

I am willing to take a small wager that most people actually do know this... that most people actually do know that daddy's a frickin' breeder, and that the brat didn't come from any cabbage patch, and last but not least? I'm willing to guess that most people actually know that the last 30-odd years never did a damn thing, let alone keeping the cops from enforcing child abuse...

Now, when a bully looks for someone to push around - let alone when it's that frickin' obvious - do they choose the weak, or the strong?

I leave the reader to their answers...