"Do I feel my heterosexuality diminished by every attractive adult female who, for one reason or another, is "out of bounds?" No."

to be fair, for every attractive adult female that is off limits for some reason or another, there are probably 10 with whom a sexual relationship is possible, or at least societally acceptable. whereas, last i checked, that same relationship is forbidden with ANY child. period.

"Any movement that sacrifices individual choice in favor of strength smacks too much of joining the other side."

here, i simply should have been more clear... i was talking about sending mixed personal messages, not as a group or community. individual integrity is paramount to getting any kind of respect from those around us just looking for a point of weakness to attack.